I think this pressure to be chill, laidback and low-maintenance might be a Gen X-specific thing. I, too, have spent a life devoted to coming across as easygoing and "cool" even as I am, in fact, quite the opposite. To this day (I am in the 50s now) when people ask me to hang out, even if I don't have time and don't want to, this age-old pressure rises up within me to be cool and say yes. As I was goalsetting for this year (yes, I am so unlaid-back I do this every year), I wrote down the category "Social." Under it I wrote two things:
"Energy conservation as a lifestyle. If something drains me, it’s a hard no. If it steadies me, it stays." Need to hang this on my fridge!! Thank you as always for these gems!
I think this pressure to be chill, laidback and low-maintenance might be a Gen X-specific thing. I, too, have spent a life devoted to coming across as easygoing and "cool" even as I am, in fact, quite the opposite. To this day (I am in the 50s now) when people ask me to hang out, even if I don't have time and don't want to, this age-old pressure rises up within me to be cool and say yes. As I was goalsetting for this year (yes, I am so unlaid-back I do this every year), I wrote down the category "Social." Under it I wrote two things:
1) No.
2) More no.
SO SO SO true!
Massively resonates. Nailed it.
Thanks doll!
"Energy conservation as a lifestyle. If something drains me, it’s a hard no. If it steadies me, it stays." Need to hang this on my fridge!! Thank you as always for these gems!